Some people say that people don't change. Once a drunk, always a drunk. Once a cheater, always a cheater. If they leave their dirty socks on the floor, they'll always leave their dirty socks on the floor.

Other people say that our weaknesses provide us with opportunity to garner strength through our pursuit of change. Weaknesses are inevitable challenges that allow us to grow and learn.

I think I'm going to straddle the fence on this one. First of all, we can't change people. People change themselves. However, I agree with the latter of thoughts: that our weaknesses provide us with opportunity to garner strength through our struggle to change and ultimately grow. But, I think too, that there are some things that no matter what we do, we can never change. What do you think?

Jared's been leaving the shower curtain open after his showers. I like to have it closed so that it reduces the chance of mildew. I've told him this, but he still (for the most part) leaves it open. As I was stepping out of the shower tonight, I thought about all of the little annoying habits I have and how Jared doesn't point them out. I annoy myself with these things, but he quietly and lovingly lives with them. I love that about him. Its part of what makes him, him. He has a selfless consideration for other people's feelings. Its the way he strives to think of how he'd want to be treated when he interacts with others. At the same time, I want to sift through his thoughts and find all of the things that I do that annoy him so I can change them; so I can be better for him as well as for myself. Maybe its part of my subconscious quest to be perfect. Earlier tonight when Jared was sprawled out on the sofa leaving no room for me to sit, I impatiently barked at him to sit up and make room for me. Two seconds later, I felt like a shrew. Most of the time, my big-ole' self is the one sprawled out on the couch while Jared takes the floor. This double-sidedness is one of my flaws. Its okay for me to sprawl, but not for him. I don't like this about myself, but am terribly grateful my sweet husband did not throw it in my face. Maybe he patiently waits for me to see these flaws on my own? In any case, I can learn a lot from him.

I grab my towel and close the curtain. I realize I need to let the shower curtain go. If this is the biggest flaw I have to worry about with my wonderful husband, then I'll close that curtain myself for the rest of our lives. I'll embrace that curtain as a daily symbol that I have this amazing man in my life. I'll be grateful that I have a shower curtain to close. It means he's here and that we're together. Some things don't need to change.

ps...He just showered and he shut the curtain this time :)